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How to Avoid Stress on Your Wedding

As anyone getting married knows all too well, planning a wedding can be both an exciting time and a very stressful one. Although one is looking forward to tying the knot, there are many things to be organised and to take into consideration to ensure that not only the wedding goes smoothly but all the guests have a fantastic time too.

Unfortunately this means that for many people the actual wedding day itself can be particularly stressful, when it should in fact be one of the happiest days of your life. To make sure that your stress does not get out of control on your wedding day, try these pieces of advice to stay calm and ensure everything goes smoothly.

The first thing to do to ensure that you are less stressed about your wedding day is to eliminate the threat of uncertainty. Unpredictable things happen, especially at those occasions where something is bound to go wrong if you are desperately praying for things to go right. Maybe your solo wedding singer will be 30 minutes late after being stuck in traffic, or your wedding dress might get a tear.

When things to go wrong, do not let this stress you out, as there is a way to mitigate all of the potential issues that could arise on your big day. The way to eliminate this uncertainty is to plan a generous amount of time for each stage of the wedding day, right from the morning events when your guests arrive the ceremony, right through to the last person leaving your reception at night.

Some people are sure to arrive early, others will arrive late, the wedding ceremony itself might be held up, and you may have to drag people from your reception venue in very early hours in the morning after they have had too much to drink. Plan generously with your time and this will allow you room to deal with any unexpected issues that can occur.

To do this, make sure that you plan a strict schedule for your day but leave room on either side for unexpected events. Guests will often be very patient if they have to wait, so you have nothing to worry about if you overestimate a little bit of your time rather than underestimate it. This also gives everyone room to breathe and the chance to deal with any expected events.

Another tip to reduce your stressful feelings on your wedding day is to make sure that you double check everything with your vendors and entertainment services the day before the big celebration. This ranges from checking up with your solo wedding singer that everything is going to plan, right through to double checking with the catering service and photographers that you will be using too.

Although the best piece of advice is to make sure that you choose quality vendors in the first instance, and this in itself should mean that you have a minimum of problems, doing last minute checks can help overcome any difficulties or misunderstandings in advance and leave you a few less things to worry about on the big day.

One of the best tips to bear in mind in the lead up to the wedding and to ensure that you have a minimum of stress is to take a couple of days off before the big day itself. Weddings are a lot of stress and hassle to plan, and this can easily lead to a build up of tension that just accumulates on your wedding day.

Taking a short breather just before your wedding means you will be able to get a bit of perspective and come into the ceremony and reception much more relaxed. A refreshed and positive attitude can go a long way in helping you deal with the unexpected if it should occur on your special day too.

From double checking with your catering services and solo wedding singer, to being purposely flexible with time on the your big day, these tips can help relieve a lot of stress and mean you enjoy this very special occasion as much as possible.

Things To Make You Look Great On Your Wedding

1. Choose your dress well in advance. Your dress is one of the most important items in your wedding plans, so make sure you take enough time to choose one that suits you – not your best friend, not your bridesmaids, and not your mother. For the day of your wedding, you’ll want a dress in which you can stand, walk and dance in without worrying about “wardrobe malfunctions” or causing you discomfort. Allow necessary time if you decide on having the dress made, but even if bought “off the rack,” you’ll need to factor in time for tailoring and any adjustments. Choosing a comfortable wedding dress will make you look natural on the wedding day, it also helps the wedding photographers and videographers to capture more great moments. Imagine if the bride has always to worry if her wedding dress will fall, she will not have a natural or pleasant facial expression, and it will make your wedding photographers and videographers have a hard time doing their job to capture the “great” moments.

2. Choose a classic hair style. You don’t want to overpower your dress and headpiece with a flamboyant hair style or color that overwhelms everything else. Keep it simple and classic, and remember to practice the look you want at home or with your stylist before the wedding day. When we recorded a wedding in summer 2011, a bride chose a hair style that her hair covers half of her face. This couple chose to do the outdoor photo/video session by the lake in downtown Toronto. As you can imagine, it is very windy by the lake, her hair flies everywhere…

3. Fix your nails professionally. Have your nails professionally manicured the day before the wedding. This is one thing you don’t want to do too far in advance. Reduce the chances of a broken nail, chipped polish; or, if using applied nails, reduce the risk of having one coming off by having your manicure as late as possible. If you are not inclined toward colored polishes or long fingernails, simply make sure that they are neatly trimmed, filed, polished, and buffed. Your hands will be the focus of attention when showing off that new wedding ring and for photos and video.

4. Enhance your beauty with makeup. Makeup is the last thing you’ll need to worry over. It is done on the big day itself but you should have a test run before this. Don’t try to transform yourself into a different person with dramatic eye makeup or garish lipstick. Simply make the real you look better! This is also going to help you look good on the wedding photos and videos.
• Use a slightly heavier hand than with your usual daytime makeup so that your photos won’t have you appearing washed-out looking, but don’t overdo it. And if your wedding is at night, with more subtle lighting, apply makeup as though you were going to a club or restaurant at night – a little heavier than daytime, but not too much! Avoid deep red lipstick as well as a too-pale pink. Frosted eyeshadows or lipsticks are definite no-nos. Taking your own photo with a digital camera or a camera phone is a good way to check your makeup before the wedding photos and videos.
• Also, if you have sensitive skin, this is not the time to try a new brand. The last thing you want to do is head for the altar with blotches or zits thanks to an allergic reaction.

5. Prepare in advance to feel your best.
• The night before your wedding is not the time for partying, so get eight hours of restful sleep. If you’re having a rehearsal dinner, or a bachelorette bash, make sure that it ends early. Drink moderately or, better yet, not at all. Bloodshot eyes and a banging hangover will not make for a fun wedding.
• Don’t gorge yourself the night before because we all know that there are strange forces at work which will try to make your wedding gown just a wee bit snug in the morning. Let alone the fact that it isn’t so pleasant feeling bloated! To overcome excitement and nerves, try taking a long walk – it can help with pre-nuptial jitters. A relaxing bath with soothing background music, a cup of herbal tea, and you should be ready to doze off with images of a happy future marriage in your dreams.

6. Be yourself. It is absolutely normal to feel awkward when you are surrounded by the wedding photographers and videographers on the big day, especially for those who marry for the first time. Just try to think there is only your and your love when they are taking photos for you. Modern professional photographers and videographers do not take lots of photo when they say “one, two, three, cheese”, instead, like our photographers and videographers, they capture the most natural moment by giving the couple some creative directions and then follow the flow to capture the great moments.

Thank You! A Crucial Ingredient Before, During And After Your Wedding

You just announced your engagement and may have even sent out your Save The Date cards. I bet you think that this is all you did. Well, it is not! You may not realize it but you actually did a lot more. You stirred people’s emotions of happiness, love and anticipation and with them the seeds of planning.

That’s right! Whether they are relatives, old childhood friends, new acquaintances, co-workers or neighbors, they donned on their thinking caps and began planning.

Some may plan special parties or receptions such as engagement parties, bridal showers, bachelor(ette) nights. Others may plan to attend such functions if invited. Still others may consider pre-wedding and wedding gifts, how to get to the wedding, travel and accommodations if needed, or simply what to wear to look as special as your wedding day.

Happiness, excitement and love are contagious. Don’t be surprised when potential guests to your wedding, will be so happy for you that they will want to be a part of the entire process from engagement to wedding. They will ask with enthusiasm, how to help you with the planning of and preparations for your dream wedding.

PRE-WEDDING DAY

Remember to thank these people as often as possible. Thank them with words and deeds.
An oral, followed by a written thank you is most appropriate. To show real appreciation, you may wish to thank someone special with a small gift at a restaurant to which you invited him – her.

WEDDING DAY

  • Include special thanks in your wedding program.

  • Thank your wedding attendants, parents and grandparents with special keepsake gifts.

  • Thank your guests as they enter your wedding facility.

  • Take a moment after you have been pronounced husband and wife to thank your guests for being there to witness the most important day of your life and share in your happiness.

  • Thank your guests individually at the receiving line.

  • Thank each again with a small but meaningful gift that bears a thank you note.

  • These wedding guest gifts are called wedding favors or just favors.

  • If you can possibly afford it, make each favor a keepsake memento from your wedding.*Personalized gifts are very IN and become treasured keepsakes.

  • While everyone is in a toasting mood, propose a thank you toast to your guests.

  • As they are about to leave, thank each wedding guest for adding to your happiness by being present.

* A-wedding Day conducted a wedding guests survey and found out that most did not remember what foods were served. Yet, whenever they look at the keepsake memento favor, now in their home, they remember the wedding and certain moments that captured their attention.

A-wedding Day also conducted a bride and groom survey and found out that most couples, even those on a budget want to thank their wedding guests with a favor they can keep and enjoy. The consensus is that brides and grooms opted to do without a sweet table at a buffet or desert at a sit down reception and use the budget they allotted for them to obtain meaningful, keepsake wedding favors their guests will appreciate and enjoy long after the wedding.

Most said that they do not think that by doing away with sweets and deserts they deprive their guests. “After all,” they said, “Isn’t the wedding cake a desert?”

AFTER YOUR WEDDING DAY

No one expects thank you notes right after the wedding. Enjoy your honeymoon and each other. Upon return however, do hand write thank you notes. If you decide to print your own invitations purchase matching than you notes and wedding programs if available. For a real classy thank you note, scan your favorite wedding photo and send it along with the notes.

Now put on your thinking cap, and I am sure that you will come up with more ideas. Have fun!

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Wedding on Budget

When planning a wedding on a budget you have to lower your requirements just a bit. For example, you can’t try to have to filet mignon if you are throwing the wedding on a fish stick budget. I have broken down the various aspects of the wedding planning to the last details so that you will get a better idea of what I mean.

Ideally, you would want to have at least a year to plan the wedding, but that is not always possible or desired. For the purposes of this guide, I have set up a 12 month wedding timeline that will certainly make it a little bit easier to host your wedding.

12 months before your Wedding day
– Announce the engagement
– Set your wedding date
– Create a budget
– Hire a Wedding Coordinator (optional)
– Create your guest list
– Start brainstorming ideas and themes
– Reserve your Ceremony spot
– Book an Officiate
– Make reservations for your Reception area
– Book a Photographer and Videographer
– Book Caterer, Florist and Music (Band, DJ, etc.)
– Look for a Wedding gown and Tux, allowing time for alterations and fittings
– Register for gifts
– Select and call the bridesmaids and groomsmen.
– Agree on a date to order bridesmaids’ dresses and groomsmen’s tuxes
– Choose a destination for your Honeymoon
– Apply for passports, if required

6 months before your Wedding day
– Finalize your guest list
– Decide on the timeline and details of Ceremony and Reception
– Order/make invitations, and thank you notes
– Make airline and hotel reservations for the Honeymoon
– Choose a caterer, a florist and place an order for the wedding cake.
– Book Transportation (Limo, Antique Car, Etc.) for wedding day
– Shop for any Party rentals

3-4 months before your Wedding day
– Mail out/hand deliver invitations
– Confirm wedding details and contracts with all wedding vendors
– Choose gifts for your attendants
– Set a date and time for the rehearsal dinner
– Help make travel arrangements for any out-of-town guests
– Make final alterations and fittings for the Wedding Gown and Tux

1 month before your Wedding day
– Apply for the marriage license
– Buy your wedding bands
– Finalize music list and no-play list with band or DJ
– Attend showers
– Make insurance arrangements

1-2 weeks before your Wedding day
– Schedule the rehearsal a day or two before your wedding day
– Make an appointment with a Beauty Salon for day of wedding
– Send a wedding announcement to the local newspapers (optional)
– Make necessary arrangements for name & address change, if any.
– Discuss final details with the reception Site and the Caterer
– Pack for honeymoon
– Write out all checks needed for wedding day
– Send reminders to the rehearsal dinner attendees about the location & time
– Discuss final details of the ceremony and reception with family and bridal party
– Wedding day or day before
– Visit your Beauty Salon for manicure and pedicure
– Host the rehearsal and dinner.
– Make sure the ushers have the final guest list